you're in general right. i was focusing on specifically enthusiastic consent and discussion around it, where it's generally considered only appropriate if it's not something you can just project on someone. body language is hellishly fraught that way, it's how you get "she was into it" excuses
generally if you wanna do something spicy you REALLY wanna avoid signal ambiguity, hence the pre-discussions of hard boundaries, safe-words/signals, etc.
and with aella that's always at least tangentially the context
She’s also straight up wrong about it not applying to property. If you try to make a contract with a child for inessentials you run into this all the time
jadehawk "FREE ŁINK"@jadehawk.bsky.social·2026-09-27T21:52:23.489Z#