Faine Greenwood@faineg.com·2026-09-27T17:56:54.896Z#
Which is especially enraging considering how many autistic and ND women who also struggle with this stuff are likely in this social scene
Coureur de FemboOoo[Big Bad Bæddel Borg]🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🐔@droctorock.northsky.social·2026-09-27T18:16:26.174Z#
yes! I didn't want to muddy the point of the above comment, but I'm also screaming "where's the events for autistic/ND women who don't know how to establish clear boundaries, invite the attention they want from who they want without opening themselves up to abuse, and/or don't know how to flirt!"
Bodily autonomy, still a thing@boendercarol.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:45:00.597Z#
What are these 'flirt girls' sessions? I assume they're for 'girls' and quite upset at what they could be teaching.
Coureur de FemboOoo[Big Bad Bæddel Borg]🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🐔@droctorock.northsky.social·2026-09-27T19:00:51.141Z#
from what I'm reading it seems like a lot of "how to please the men" lessons
the flirt girls are the ones expected to help the men learn, and if it was strictly voluntary, consensual, with clearly established boundaries etc. that'd be one thing, but many women feel pressured to take part for work
Bodily autonomy, still a thing@boendercarol.bsky.social·2026-09-27T19:04:30.440Z#
So gross. Gross gross gross. If people are being flown in for this, that's pretty clear sex trafficking.
Barrista@onbluskysku.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:20:21.329Z#
Feels like they're trying to steer kink and polyamory away from the stereotypes of organized events being rote and proceduralist but they're reinventing the reasons why that exists in real time.
Like yes the consent checklists don't get the juices flowing but this is why events have it.
Liz Fong-Jones (方禮真)@lizthegrey.com·2026-09-27T18:22:14.658Z#
DID YOU SEE THE BIT WHERE THEY SAY YOU CAN PROVIDE A BINDER OF ADDITIONAL GUIDELINES (but then that no one has to read them before interacting with you?)
Corinne Green@ket.bsky.social·2026-09-27T23:13:30.712Z#
please say you're describing a whitest kids u know bit
please
Faine Greenwood@faineg.com·2026-09-27T18:23:15.960Z#
so you can bring your own physical terms of service that no one actually reads
not beating the “these people are cosplaying as computers” allegations
Barrista@onbluskysku.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:26:35.018Z#
You'd think the people who have a hard time grasping implicit cues and norms would be happy for a shared, written document that establishes clear protocols for a variety of famously implicit multi-way social and physical situations, the way computers share information!
AndreasThinks@andreasthinks.me·2026-09-27T18:29:38.558Z#
At the risk of being a bit of a downer, has anybody talked to Aella and co about these concerns?
This is a sex worker who is part of a community who is being actively persecuted by the US administration. Maybe we can give her some benefit of doubt and talk to them? Or have I missed lots of history
Gareth Watkins@garethwatkins.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:24:37.479Z#
Oh god, cursed thought: they're furries but for computers.
Barrista@onbluskysku.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:22:43.882Z#
What
Barrista@onbluskysku.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:23:21.479Z#
Look I am not the sort of person who wants to read a flight manual but that is why I do not fly airplanes
Andromeda Yelton@thatandromeda.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:46:53.630Z#
Step 1: decide we are at a status level where all women must be socially confident and normatively hot
Step 2: few of the AFAB people who have been techies forever go to your parties
Step 3: see, women just aren’t interested in/good at tech
Andromeda Yelton@thatandromeda.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:55:30.794Z#
and I mean goodness knows my 20s were characterized by all the nerds of all genders I knew being at freaky sex parties they didn't invite me to because it was so obviously not my scene 😂 but it seemed that like...more consent and less normativity were involved
Faine Greenwood@faineg.com·2026-09-27T19:00:07.873Z#
Yeah, I know many people who are into that stuff who aren’t weird creeps about it!
Coureur de FemboOoo[Big Bad Bæddel Borg]🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🐔@droctorock.northsky.social·2026-09-27T19:02:31.807Z#
it's actually not that hard! they're just (deliberately?) doing it very wrong!
Faine Greenwood@faineg.com·2026-09-27T18:51:01.937Z#
it’s fucking evil shit
jadelennox@jadelennox.bsky.social·2026-09-27T20:34:24.801Z#
oh god I'm having flashbacks.
luckily the east coast tech industry mostly has a solid "appropriate for work" culture these days especially outside of finance, and yet, still having flashbacks.
Coureur de FemboOoo[Big Bad Bæddel Borg]🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🐔@droctorock.northsky.social·2026-09-27T22:25:53.298Z#
🫂
