rahaeli@rahaeli.bsky.social·2026-09-28T01:32:59.424Z#
yeah, but the kink and polyamory communities have actually worked out rules for doing this *more* safely (often honored more in the breach than the observance, but they EXIST) and none of these people have learned any of them
Robert Black@hurricanexyz.bsky.social·2026-09-28T01:52:00.637Z#
Oh yeah for sure
(The inchoate essay I mention above wouldn't really be about kink-land, not least because my knowledge there is zilch haha. Possibly it would benefit from knowing more about those communities and their norms than I actually do 😅)
The Alleywitch: Spellcraft as a Service@alleywitch.cards·2026-09-28T01:56:42.261Z#
They reinvented kink and polyamory and made it shittier, just like they reinvented taxis and so forth and made it shittier? It makes sense in hindsight.
TKarney@pecunium.bsky.social·2026-09-28T01:40:35.903Z#
It’s quite doable. One just has to be honest, and a bit vulnerable.
One of the more wholesome things about KinkdotCom is that they make a point of showing the consent before scenes. “What are your hard noes, what are your soft noes; the safe word for “too much” the safe word for ALL STOP”
TKarney@pecunium.bsky.social·2026-09-28T01:40:35.904Z#
They do it to model safer kink for their audience.
It can be done; people can choose to treat each other as beings with equivalent agency.