Faine Greenwood@faineg.com·2026-09-27T16:42:06.546Z#
This is *gross*.
bsky.app/profile/leah...
Faine Greenwood@faineg.com·2026-09-27T17:25:09.550Z#
So many autistic/neurodivergent women (which I bet describes a LOT of women in the Silicon Valley AI scene) report being *specifically* targeted by sexual predators who take advantage of their issues with reading social situations.
Which is why I loathe the “oh, those poor autistic men” excuse.
Faine Greenwood@faineg.com·2026-09-27T17:38:29.638Z#
These are the same weirdos who are trying to take over the process of regulating AI and setting US tech policy.
little-flying-robots.ghost.io/why-we-cant-...
Faine Greenwood@faineg.com·2026-09-27T18:35:05.530Z#
The effective altruism movement is extremely closely linked to rationalist social groups and high-level people at leading AI companies (the Venn diagram is almost a circle) - and it also has a sexual assault problem:
bsky.app/profile/fain...
Faine Greenwood@faineg.com·2026-09-27T18:39:45.008Z#
Let us also remember this social milieu revolving around AI apparently aren’t great at age verification for events, considering a 13 year old claims he was able to get into AI group house parties:
bsky.app/profile/fain...
Faine Greenwood@faineg.com·2026-09-27T18:41:19.723Z#
See also: bsky.app/profile/fain...
Acthpa@acthpa.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:56:15.716Z#
Why are people talking about it like it's AI-specific... It's been happening in every Bay Area circle with too much money and bored men for quite some time... It's not right, but unless someone is answering a specific kink, it's not where you get ahead/change things.
jordie3000@jordie3000.bsky.social·2026-09-28T00:57:54.614Z#
This is not to say all techbros ever have preyed more on the young and naive as opposed to their contemporaries, but I can’t think of many I knew in my younger years who wouldn’t say no to someone 10+ years their junior given the chance
Rothaí@rothaiocht.bsky.social·2026-09-27T22:02:48.525Z#
I can’t get past the fact Light Haven literally overlooks one of Berkeley’s largest middle schools.
Teeming with 11-14yos still into Berkeley Math Circle and Harry Potter.
nic❄️le@nicoleamurray.bsky.social·2026-09-27T19:53:21.282Z#
They wanted them there
@boldfriend.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:00:50.923Z#
The dogs would be the most trustworthy ones in that scenario. These tech bros are weird, nasty, vindictive social losers.
Rob Malouf@robmalouf.bsky.social·2026-09-27T17:50:11.655Z#
Haunted Cherub@goodmourning.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:22:40.739Z#
“creates a culture that is toxic and hostile to women.” I mean isn’t that their goal? When have corporations not wanted to return to the madmen era? And now they want to hide assault behind “excuses” of autism apparently and host sex parties so consent is ALWAYS implied (the women *chose* to attend)
Pierre 2 BA@pierre2ba.eurosky.social·2026-09-27T18:14:42.058Z#
And you just made the case for normie European Union administrative grey suits to take the wheel.
Tech stuff is too important to be left to ego tripping geeks catching up on a lousy childhood, becoming bullies, sex-offenders or worse.
The Absolutely Never Show@theabsolutelynever.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:35:14.161Z#
Ever notice how the demo video for every AI video generation tool is basically “make a beautiful woman do whatever you want?”
@picturesqueai.bsky.social·2026-10-01T00:08:05.780Z#
Those demos reveal more about what companies choose to showcase than what the models can do. A better benchmark would span ordinary scenes and show control over pacing, camera, and continuity.
The Absolutely Never Show@theabsolutelynever.bsky.social·2026-10-01T02:13:19.201Z#
It’s almost as if they think (or maybe even known based on a lot of data) that this very specific use case is what their product will be most often used for.
Mithras - Left Justified and Ancient@mithras.bsky.social·2026-09-28T17:35:58.683Z#
I first ran into "oh he's autistic, you have to cut him a break", with a serial cheater in a vampire LARP.
And I was, "Yeah, no. Autism didn't cause him to have three different versions of his character sheet in the database."
It's so much worse when they use it to try and get out of sex crimes.
Snowy🔞@snowy67.bsky.social·2026-09-27T21:03:58.681Z#
"Oh those poor autistic men" is so fking gross and infantalizing i am on the spectrum I KNOW THAT IT'S WRONG.
Snowy🔞@snowy67.bsky.social·2026-09-28T05:40:23.209Z#
People treat trans people as literally less able to function but for many its not, its a difference in how the brain is organized. We are fully developed we just did not develop the same way. I understand social ques, ethics, complex emotions.
Snowy🔞@snowy67.bsky.social·2026-09-28T17:52:31.007Z#
Lol im really cooked, i meant autustic people
@4gabriel.bsky.social·2026-09-28T22:39:04.791Z#
How convenient for sex pests to hold these parties -what happens when a woman or man goes to the cops for some real offense? and how convenient for the sex pests. imagine trying to tell that story to anyone and it goes wrong. The response will be/what did you expect? And that will be that.
Grog@grogofgrog.bsky.social·2026-09-27T17:36:17.328Z#
Any country running honeypots could also have root access to a lot of systems pretty quickly too.
scaryr🦊@merveille.bsky.social·2026-09-27T17:55:40.977Z#
I cannot emphasize enough how visible this was even 25 years ago as an undergraduate at MIT.
scaryr🦊@merveille.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:02:25.068Z#
It was very obvious they focused on women from more sheltered or religious backgrounds as well.
Faine Greenwood@faineg.com·2026-09-27T18:04:15.117Z#
Absolutely
Kathryn BrightBOO! 👻 ✒️@kebrightbill.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:09:15.581Z#
Which is a category Aella herself falls into, and the whole, "homeschooler from Moscow, ID," of it all feels like a skeleton key that explains so much about her
Buttadeus@thewanderingjew.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:11:19.296Z#
And I get a layer of "maybe none of the taboos are real, let's start at zero and see where it goes" but you can't have billions of dollars until you know where it goes.
@sufficiency.bsky.social·2026-09-27T22:42:11.763Z#
So much this. Class of ‘97 myself.
The Spaceshipper 🚀@thespaceshipper.com·2026-09-27T19:31:27.706Z#
In general, being autistic or neurodivergent has lately become a very convenient excuse.
I can confirm that it is possible to be autistic or neurodivergent without being unhealthy. 🤷
David Howl@shinydh.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:00:04.950Z#
And besides, "it's an autistic thing" disregards the differences *within that neurotype*! Hi from an ace-spectrum autistic man with relevant sensory aversions who, in this environment, would probably be ostracised for having The Squick on that level...
Faine Greenwood@faineg.com·2026-09-27T18:07:03.196Z#
Yeah like I’m a ND person and the idea of a sex party is my personal vision of hell
JC 💙🦋🛸@colorado80537.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:55:09.463Z#
There are days I wish I couldn't read. 🤢 Not really but... damn.
ND woman here. I can barely stand a group of people, period. This? Hells NO. And tho I also suck at social cues I make up for that by not being awkward but obnoxious. I will tell someone to fuck off in 2 seconds.
I can't imagine.
Andrew: weird and loud@ak0.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:53:22.483Z#
It just seems like "what if already unpleasant dance club was also extra gross texturally" before any of the ai pro-rape stuff gets added in and like.....I have to wear gloves to wash dishes I don't think I have a brain that could be a fan of orgies lmao
Brooke@brooklynmarie.bsky.social·2026-09-27T19:12:42.082Z#
I don't even like regular parties!! I definitely don't want to be at one where being naked in front of coworkers is mandatory!
rabagast@rabagast.bsky.social·2026-09-27T19:14:10.948Z#
in addition to that i wouldn't want to be around my naked coworkers.
Semi-Charismatic Minifauna@sarenraesaves.bsky.social·2026-09-27T21:37:12.783Z#
Yeah, one thing that stood out to me (besides the consent issues) is that effectively-mandatory work socializing in an industry with so many autistic people sounded counterproductive.
Karl Magnacca@kmagnacca.bsky.social·2026-09-27T19:05:19.624Z#
Yeah I know people who are bad at understanding situations (even after you explicitly tell them) but as someone who is borderline, I feel like my sense of “this person is a lying manipulator and you should never ever trust them” is higher than even most NT people.
Misandrosaurus Hex@bexone.bsky.social·2026-09-29T15:00:03.308Z#
And a statistically significant number of those exact dudes predating on autistic/ND women will immediately turn around and claim their own neurodivergence as a get out of jail free card when called on their behavior
dave walsh@dvewlsh.com·2026-09-28T17:34:06.022Z#
Yeah, any of these men having a neurodivergence used as an excuse for abusive and illegal behavior isn't going to cut it.
I feel really bad for these women, but at this point, it doesn't feel safe for these companies to be allowed to continue existing as they are.
dave walsh@dvewlsh.com·2026-09-28T17:36:35.599Z#
I'd say women should steer clear of these companies for their own safety, but frankly, that's not a solution, nor have they done anything wrong or should they need to adjust their behavior. It's the men at fault in these situations. Awful human beings.
Island of Reil@islandofreil.northsky.social·2026-09-27T21:42:56.718Z#
Flashback to 2012, when some old-school fan defended a serial harasser at Readercon with "but maybe he's autistic!"
readercon.livejournal.com/21805.html
Island of Reil@islandofreil.northsky.social·2026-09-27T21:44:20.879Z#
More than one fan. From a different discussion:
Island of Reil@islandofreil.northsky.social·2026-09-27T22:15:40.508Z#
Oh - here's the fan I was thinking of at first. It's from the very long thread to the first link.
readercon.livejournal.com/21805.html?t...
Morrigan Croft@morrigancroft.bsky.social·2026-09-29T14:49:21.762Z#
As an autistic woman* it's really interesting when men fall back on "I can't help it, I'm autistic" as an excuse for SA and consent violations because as an autistic person all I've ever done is make myself smaller for a world that won't accommodate my disabilities.
Morrigan Croft@morrigancroft.bsky.social·2026-09-29T14:49:21.763Z#
Among other incidents there was a man who would send me fetish content and no matter how I told him I do not consent to it, he continued. When I blocked him I was approached in a cafe by another woman about being ableist for doing this as "he can't help it" and I was "deliberately isolating him"
Morrigan Croft@morrigancroft.bsky.social·2026-09-29T14:50:18.776Z#
It may shock some people, but being a cunt isn't a disability.
Wendy-Lady@wendyzski.bsky.social·2026-09-29T15:39:45.740Z#
oh gods this.
Autistic people who give a shit about other people's feelings are horrified when we do something like that, and immediately step back and try and patch our software.
Anything else doesn't necessarily mean you're not autistic, it means that you are autistic and also an asshole
SpacePrez@spaceprez.bsky.social·2026-09-29T15:14:26.714Z#
I've always been more like "I'm 99% sure they're into me but there's a 1% chance I'm wrong so better say nothing rather than make them uncomfortable"
And regardless of your struggles, you can grow 😑 you can learn or change if you care
L.R. Hockley@wonderandawe83.bsky.social·2026-09-28T15:37:01.929Z#
Maybe it's just the autistic people I know but I don't think a sex party is a good place for an Autistic person in general to learn how to approach potential partners. That sounds like a hellish situation for anyone who has trouble reading social situations or has sensory issues.
@eahrend.dev·2026-09-28T12:59:00.052Z#
I'm an autistic man in tech who struggled with dating and has been married to a wonderful woman for 10+ years.
Here is my advice to my fellow men: Go to therapy and actually work on yourself.
Some Random Susan@anysusan.bsky.social·2026-09-27T17:32:05.985Z#
There is no excuse, none. As a ND parent of ND men I’ve labored, LABORED to instill that in them. Lack of social awareness isn’t a get out of jail free card.
so yeah it enrages me when people push it as an excuse. No, never ever. Absolutely not. Being autistic is not a license to be an asshole.
Some Random Susan@anysusan.bsky.social·2026-09-27T17:34:48.780Z#
because yeah I was an ND woman in a lot of places where I was preyed on in various personal and professional spaces. it’s been my mission for twenty plus years to raise humans who know better than that.
Zendervai@zendervai.bsky.social·2026-09-28T17:29:15.004Z#
I think a lot of people who pull this excuse are deliberately trying to bury that it's actually very easy to err on the side of "it's a default no unless you get a very clear and direct yes, with multiple confirmations". It's really offensive to pretend autistic people can't understand that.
Ainsel@ainselcrafts.bsky.social·2026-09-29T02:34:31.611Z#
Yep. You can even say “hey I’m autistic and I need you to tell me very clearly if you want anything to happen sexually tonight, because I often miss social cues” if you think a potential partner might be hinting at wanting sex.
Josh O'Connor-Chen@joshoconnorchen.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:23:02.861Z#
I have many male friends and colleagues who are ND. *All* would be utterly horrified at the notion of people even thinking they might be like this, and many of them would write overly-detailed messages clarifying exactly how they felt about it.
Some Random Susan@anysusan.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:36:02.173Z#
There are many, many honorable men in the autistic community who have called out assholes like Elon for years for trying to use autism as an excuse for bad behavior. I have much respect for them.
Mighty Apollo@mightyapollo.bsky.social·2026-09-27T20:21:04.901Z#
Adolescence can be incredibly lonely for ASD teenagers so we started some youth groups here. It helps to share experiences with others, etc. but then we always drive it home - everyone makes a choice.
Be someone who punches down or be someone who lifts others up./1
Ulysses S. Longtorso, MN@uslongtorso.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:59:45.354Z#
As a ND parent of ND kids, it doesn’t have to be this way. I spent my young adulthood figuring out how to be a considerate, good person in social interactions - and how to communicate goodwill and respect.
It was sad being suspected of being like problematic NT men. Now ND creeps make it worse.
Some Random Susan@anysusan.bsky.social·2026-09-27T19:06:21.474Z#
Exactly. But the asholes are now being awarded with positions in government and held up as tech titans, it gets depressingly difficult to combat the glazing they get from the media.
Ainsel@ainselcrafts.bsky.social·2026-09-29T02:32:43.892Z#
It’s not hard to make absolutely sure you don’t rape anyone, even if you have the worst social skills in the ENTIRE WORLD, with one simple trick:
If you’re in any doubt about whether or not someone else wants to have sex with you, do not have sex with them.
Semi-Charismatic Minifauna@sarenraesaves.bsky.social·2026-09-27T21:02:26.882Z#
Autistic and nerd-heavy subculture somehow decides that ambiguously-voluntary corporate socializing is fine, actually, when it makes their female coworkers sexually available to them? What a bunch of sleazeballs.
👻 maddscream's ghost 👻@hyakushiki0087.bsky.social·2026-09-27T17:41:01.875Z#
Great thread. I think this type of behavior extends beyond this scene into how they date people largely. Two years ago, I went on a Hinge date with someone in Berkeley who fit this description. It's the only date I ever ditched because I felt unsafe. It felt more like coercion than a date. 😢
👻 maddscream's ghost 👻@hyakushiki0087.bsky.social·2026-09-27T17:41:56.855Z#
And I'll be frank: this person was not a guy at all so it's definitely not just dudes!
Ham Roids@anarchymarshmallow.bsky.social·2026-09-28T18:47:15.269Z#
Yyyyyup.
Smrt fašizmu, sloboda narodu!@lst156.bsky.social·2026-09-28T16:50:16.706Z#
Shit, my ex was a woman in tech in the Bay and coerced me into “C”NC scenes and parties. I put the first “C” in scare quotes because after therapy I realized I was raped by coercion :(
Faine Greenwood@faineg.com·2026-09-28T16:53:16.778Z#
Ugh, I'm sorry.
Smrt fašizmu, sloboda narodu!@lst156.bsky.social·2026-09-28T16:54:27.698Z#
It’s been tough, but two years of time and 600 miles of distance have helped me heal a lot
Ultraviolet Catastrophe@southernviolet.northsky.social·2026-09-28T22:22:30.129Z#
Good. Take care of yourself. You didn’t deserve it.
@theviewfromorbit.bsky.social·2026-09-28T16:22:23.613Z#
I'm ND male myself (ADHD). Yes, it has made developing social skills and picking up cues more difficult over the years. But there comes a point with some peoples' behaviour patterns where you have to think; "OK, this isn't ND - this person is a nascent sociopath with a handy therapy-speak guide".
Engineeringdude@engtechnic.bsky.social·2026-09-28T17:38:18.536Z#
my last partner is AuHD, can't tell you the amount of abuse and near sexual assualts she's gone through in her life, her parents are undiagnosed and openly abused her growing up for not going along with their gittery plans because reading minds is impossible and for not bending to their will
The Specifics Hardly Matter@gbaji.bsky.social·2026-09-28T14:58:33.285Z#
If your social deficits expose others to the risk of sexual assault, you are ethically obliged to avoid situations where that exposure might arise.
Island of Reil@islandofreil.northsky.social·2026-09-28T16:59:44.330Z#
These men don't have "social deficits." They have moral deficits.
Moon Gazing Raccoon@banditpaws.com·2026-09-27T19:39:06.064Z#
Thank you for acknowledging this.
pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC...
Brooke@brooklynmarie.bsky.social·2026-09-27T19:06:01.504Z#
this!! I am *only now* realizing how much of my own sexual targeting and triangulating years ago took place as a result of my own neurodivergence and misunderstandings of motives
Faine Greenwood@faineg.com·2026-09-27T19:10:20.121Z#
It is such a huge problem and I’ve heard so many harrowing stories
Iykyk@lipstickscribbles.bsky.social·2026-09-27T19:40:22.708Z#
I'd be careful thinking that motives are/can easily understood/teased out, as it subtly shifts responsibility into urself, releasing from accountability the other actor who can very well be playing a double, triple, or quadruple game.
We don't teach how to distill incentives/core motives.
Iykyk@lipstickscribbles.bsky.social·2026-09-27T19:42:05.487Z#
In one sense, very few ppl know how to do it, which is why predators can run rampant.
On the other, those of us that are good at it learned that lesson a very, very painful way over a long period of time.
Pennybags@nouveaubougee.bsky.social·2026-09-27T16:45:05.930Z#
I used to think that I was relatively freaky but they’re coming up with kinks that I can barely even comprehend
John Cain@jjciv.bsky.social·2026-09-27T17:07:35.269Z#
Even if one is super freaky, I can definitely see not wanting to mix that with your job. I knew people into group sex (not in SF) and literally none of them wanted to bring work into it.
Pennybags@nouveaubougee.bsky.social·2026-09-27T17:12:10.072Z#
This is another thing: if anyone I work with ever found out what I was into sexually, I would be horrified
Matthew Best@matthewbest.bsky.social·2026-09-27T17:14:21.032Z#
It's not even that, it's still the basic norms of not bringing your sex life to work. I'm not going to be ok with random hookups or graphic depictions of spousal sex from completely vanilla missionary people.
It's not liberating, it's fucking weird.
Matthew Best@matthewbest.bsky.social·2026-09-27T17:15:45.853Z#
The same reason I accept and understand everybody has bodily functions and wouldn't embarrass anybody for asking for toilet paper or a tampon but still fully expect them not to shit on the floor in front of me.
John Cain@jjciv.bsky.social·2026-09-27T17:20:54.923Z#
I think this is part of the totality of work culture in SF/SV, where all your friends and social life comes from work. Personally, I like to know as little as possible about my co-workers’ lives (unless I specifically choose otherwise).
Ray Aune@kerthulhu75.bsky.social·2026-09-27T19:58:13.149Z#
Never thought I'd have that moment like in Benford & Brin's Heart of the Comet.. sex is uninteresting because the kinks don't make sense.
Piper@the-pied-piper.bsky.social·2026-09-27T21:06:55.759Z#
This akin to what I meant in my comment about it being impossible for the CNC scenes they host to not violate the first C.
You cannot “demo” or engage in a gaslighting kink without intensive, individualized preparation, discussion, and boundary setting.
To do it without those isn’t kink, it’s SA.
Piper@the-pied-piper.bsky.social·2026-09-27T21:06:55.760Z#
I’m outraged at even the words used to describe this. The attitudes tacit in it.
What do they mean they normalized a space where someone could ask “are you offering a consent-requiring experience?” and the immediate response is the initiation of that experience, not a clarification of consent?
Piper@the-pied-piper.bsky.social·2026-09-27T21:06:55.761Z#
This behavior is clearly SA if done between two long term partners who regularly engage in this exact play. While it would be difficult to prosecute in most jurisdictions, it is still nevertheless flatly illegal
The idea of blanket consent by all people at a party/event to such inherently dangerous
Piper@the-pied-piper.bsky.social·2026-09-27T21:06:55.762Z#
types of play is a self contradiction.
Even if you knew for a stone cold fact everyone there was deeply experienced in this play and enthusiastically contented to it numerous times before, it just cannot be done between any two new-to-each-other people without individual and detailed consent.
Piper@the-pied-piper.bsky.social·2026-09-27T21:06:55.763Z#
It’s not just gross, it’s SA (at minimum) as policy.
rahaeli@rahaeli.bsky.social·2026-09-27T22:28:17.834Z#
Whaaaaaaaaat
Faine Greenwood@faineg.com·2026-09-27T22:29:00.656Z#
oh that thread is full of some real terrible shit
Kevin says Eat the Rich@mwgore.bsky.social·2026-09-27T22:47:27.056Z#
Well, yeah. Entitled men fuck up everything they touch on the regular
brad@bradiscranky.bsky.social·2026-09-27T22:33:49.058Z#
i am just a casual kinkster by any meaningful terms but everything there is just so fucking terrifying
an untreated survivor of abuse is leading the community and seems to be deliberately shutting out any experienced elders who can explain in great detail why all of this is wrong
brad@bradiscranky.bsky.social·2026-09-27T22:33:49.059Z#
i almost wish i had social media clout for a brief moment so i could get them called the "red flags" instead of "rationalists"
brad@bradiscranky.bsky.social·2026-09-27T22:36:43.208Z#
they're advertising that they're sorting through young (not always of age) women for the vulnerable and lacking support who will let themselves be made dependent on increasingly abusive users, and trying to make a virtuous kink of it. ai aside there's some real evil here
His Bark Materials🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🌌@oneiriccanid.bsky.social·2026-09-27T16:59:52.461Z#
It strikes me that Aella is an incredibly damaged person who is organising events to spread that damage to as many people as possible.
keri@keristars.bsky.social·2026-09-27T22:47:56.875Z#
huh. wasn't she homeschooled fundy-christian style, or am i mixing up names from this group
(that is to say, one doesn't always lead to the other..
but it isn't an uncommon result when the person doesn't get adequate therapy or social support)
His Bark Materials🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🌌@oneiriccanid.bsky.social·2026-09-27T22:50:02.093Z#
I have no idea, I think maybe? But that’s putting together a few titbits from other discussions about her. Unfortunately she seems to not have got the help she needed and be making that everyone else’s problem.
keri@keristars.bsky.social·2026-09-27T22:56:32.674Z#
yeah, your comment sparked the association for me. and, if what i understand of the rats' practices is valid, they're *encouraging* her to see the behavior as logical/good and to do more of it. like at a really basic level, not just the social media fame
keri@keristars.bsky.social·2026-09-27T22:56:51.574Z#
it's really unfortunate, for everyone
Yanlee@ahegu.bsky.social·2026-09-27T17:01:03.642Z#
Oh huh.
It's like a slight break off from ntr.
Amyville Hoyrror@amyhoy.bsky.social·2026-09-27T17:14:30.992Z#
…gaslighting kink??
Sarah Tuttle@niais.cryptoanarchy.network·2026-09-27T18:31:43.029Z#
this is such a nightmare. hello, person new to kink, can we totally fuck up your head with no clarity or consent, what could go wrooooong.
(I mean, an awful lot of what I'm reading is... so far outside of kink community norms and very clearly abuse, regardless of the labels they're grabbing)
pavedwalden@pavedwalden.bsky.social·2026-09-27T21:02:03.928Z#
Nobody involved framed it as a kink, the person in the screenshot is embellishing to make it more scandalous. Here's the original article
sashachapin.substack.com/p/notes-on-a...
Sarah Tuttle@niais.cryptoanarchy.network·2026-09-28T00:01:27.838Z#
Thanks for this context, that helps anyone and is absolutely different!
CaffeineIsLife@caffeineislife.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:17:22.443Z#
🤢 That's nasty.
the relentless onward march of time 💀🎃@incoherent.bsky.social·2026-09-27T17:33:10.884Z#
what if we made the Monty Python Argument Clinic but creepy
Carl Marxman, buff Ogryn@carlmarxman.northsky.social·2026-09-27T17:13:47.339Z#
Jesus christ. I don't even know how to respond to this.
CaffeineIsLife@caffeineislife.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:19:29.919Z#
I do... Because as a woman, it was great when we'd find some men who actually supported us and treated us respectfully... But there were FAR MORE instances of men who'd just keep quiet even when they'd see the bullshit other males in tech would say or do to us. 😠
Carl Marxman, buff Ogryn@carlmarxman.northsky.social·2026-09-27T18:21:55.241Z#
My wife, who is not in tech, assures me that unfortunately this is not restricted to the tech industry. The tech industry is worse right now, true.
CaffeineIsLife@caffeineislife.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:35:58.081Z#
It certainly isn't confined to just that sector, unfortunately. 😣
A. Cosmographer@acosmographer.bsky.social·2026-09-27T19:10:35.996Z#
This is pickup culture and sexual harassment disguised "kink"
folk tune stan account 🎻@folktunes.bsky.social·2026-09-27T19:22:50.163Z#
...jesusfuckign... HAVE NONE OF THESE PEOPLE HEARD OF FUCKING NEGOTIATIONS AAAAAARGHHHHH
folk tune stan account 🎻@folktunes.bsky.social·2026-09-27T19:22:59.782Z#
Faine I am So Fucking Mad
folk tune stan account 🎻@folktunes.bsky.social·2026-09-27T19:24:02.672Z#
If you're gonna do a fucking one-on-one workshop on gaslighting kink, you make it VERY clear what you're offering, make DAMN sure the person you're offering it to knows what they're getting into, and you VERY CLEARLY SIGNPOST when it's gonna start and when it's gonna end
folk tune stan account 🎻@folktunes.bsky.social·2026-09-27T19:24:28.057Z#
AND THAT'S NOT EVEN GETTING INTO THE OTHER ABSOLUTE BARE MINIMUMS LIKE SAFEWORDS AND AFTERCARE JESUS FUCKING AAAAARGHHH
REwadent Evil@ewacat.bsky.social·2026-09-27T19:25:22.974Z#
It's just not actual kink that's the thing, it's using it as an excuse to be horrendous
Mind Frighten 🎃@porgus.bsky.social·2026-09-27T19:24:02.539Z#
they probably just don't care.
folk tune stan account 🎻@folktunes.bsky.social·2026-09-27T19:25:29.000Z#
yeah no that's the conclusion I'm drawing here too I'm just very fucking deeply angered on a personal level since I have just spent the last four months doing kink safety work in the bsky community I run in
this shit pisses me off so much
folk tune stan account 🎻@folktunes.bsky.social·2026-09-27T19:26:59.560Z#
There are ways to do this risk-aware and consensually, to make sure everyone is as safe as possible and knows what they're getting into.
This is. Not that.
Quite possibly *on purpose*.
Tom Wambsgans’ Second Wife, PhD@drwambsgans.bsky.social·2026-09-27T22:29:44.488Z#
I have no scheme in which to put this information.
