The effective altruism movement is extremely closely linked to rationalist social groups and high-level people at leading AI companies (the Venn diagram is almost a circle) - and it also has a sexual assault problem: bsky.app/profile/fain...

The dogs would be the most trustworthy ones in that scenario. These tech bros are weird, nasty, vindictive social losers.

And you just made the case for normie European Union administrative grey suits to take the wheel. Tech stuff is too important to be left to ego tripping geeks catching up on a lousy childhood, becoming bullies, sex-offenders or worse.

Ever notice how the demo video for every AI video generation tool is basically “make a beautiful woman do whatever you want?”

People treat trans people as literally less able to function but for many its not, its a difference in how the brain is organized. We are fully developed we just did not develop the same way. I understand social ques, ethics, complex emotions.

It was very obvious they focused on women from more sheltered or religious backgrounds as well.

So much this. Class of ‘97 myself.

Yeah like I’m a ND person and the idea of a sex party is my personal vision of hell

Yeah, one thing that stood out to me (besides the consent issues) is that effectively-mandatory work socializing in an industry with so many autistic people sounded counterproductive.

Yeah I know people who are bad at understanding situations (even after you explicitly tell them) but as someone who is borderline, I feel like my sense of “this person is a lying manipulator and you should never ever trust them” is higher than even most NT people.

I'd say women should steer clear of these companies for their own safety, but frankly, that's not a solution, nor have they done anything wrong or should they need to adjust their behavior. It's the men at fault in these situations. Awful human beings.

More than one fan. From a different discussion:

Among other incidents there was a man who would send me fetish content and no matter how I told him I do not consent to it, he continued. When I blocked him I was approached in a cafe by another woman about being ableist for doing this as "he can't help it" and I was "deliberately isolating him"

oh gods this. Autistic people who give a shit about other people's feelings are horrified when we do something like that, and immediately step back and try and patch our software. Anything else doesn't necessarily mean you're not autistic, it means that you are autistic and also an asshole

I've always been more like "I'm 99% sure they're into me but there's a 1% chance I'm wrong so better say nothing rather than make them uncomfortable" And regardless of your struggles, you can grow 😑 you can learn or change if you care

because yeah I was an ND woman in a lot of places where I was preyed on in various personal and professional spaces. it’s been my mission for twenty plus years to raise humans who know better than that.

I have many male friends and colleagues who are ND. *All* would be utterly horrified at the notion of people even thinking they might be like this, and many of them would write overly-detailed messages clarifying exactly how they felt about it.

As a ND parent of ND kids, it doesn’t have to be this way. I spent my young adulthood figuring out how to be a considerate, good person in social interactions - and how to communicate goodwill and respect. It was sad being suspected of being like problematic NT men. Now ND creeps make it worse.

It’s not hard to make absolutely sure you don’t rape anyone, even if you have the worst social skills in the ENTIRE WORLD, with one simple trick: If you’re in any doubt about whether or not someone else wants to have sex with you, do not have sex with them.

And I'll be frank: this person was not a guy at all so it's definitely not just dudes!

Ugh, I'm sorry.

These men don't have "social deficits." They have moral deficits.

It is such a huge problem and I’ve heard so many harrowing stories

This is another thing: if anyone I work with ever found out what I was into sexually, I would be horrified

It's not even that, it's still the basic norms of not bringing your sex life to work. I'm not going to be ok with random hookups or graphic depictions of spousal sex from completely vanilla missionary people. It's not liberating, it's fucking weird.

This behavior is clearly SA if done between two long term partners who regularly engage in this exact play. While it would be difficult to prosecute in most jurisdictions, it is still nevertheless flatly illegal The idea of blanket consent by all people at a party/event to such inherently dangerous

Well, yeah. Entitled men fuck up everything they touch on the regular

i am just a casual kinkster by any meaningful terms but everything there is just so fucking terrifying an untreated survivor of abuse is leading the community and seems to be deliberately shutting out any experienced elders who can explain in great detail why all of this is wrong

I have no idea, I think maybe? But that’s putting together a few titbits from other discussions about her. Unfortunately she seems to not have got the help she needed and be making that everyone else’s problem.

Nobody involved framed it as a kink, the person in the screenshot is embellishing to make it more scandalous. Here's the original article sashachapin.substack.com/p/notes-on-a...

My wife, who is not in tech, assures me that unfortunately this is not restricted to the tech industry. The tech industry is worse right now, true.

If you're gonna do a fucking one-on-one workshop on gaslighting kink, you make it VERY clear what you're offering, make DAMN sure the person you're offering it to knows what they're getting into, and you VERY CLEARLY SIGNPOST when it's gonna start and when it's gonna end

yeah no that's the conclusion I'm drawing here too I'm just very fucking deeply angered on a personal level since I have just spent the last four months doing kink safety work in the bsky community I run in this shit pisses me off so much

me too

Personal injury damages don't count for RICO

Relatedly, the clauses in employment exit agreements that ban you from disclosing the contents of employment exit agreements should be illegal. I refuse to sign anyway but some of the stuff I’ve seen is pretty egregious.

I'll quote the now-gone popehat. It's never RICO. I'm sure the actual lawyers or adjacent peeps can explain why, but IANAL, so I can't do it.

Mandatory arbitration in consumer contracts and employment agreements should be illegal.

Theres also the not inconsiderable side effect that the person who is going to be most easily pilloried in the media and most likely to go to prison or be sued into usury here is Aella. She's essentially become Ghislaine Maxwell but with a paper trail and incorporation documents.

i’m not even conspiracy pilled enough to think this is the goal but it’s definitely the result.

you’d be surprised! I think there is a different kind of complicity they groom in their cis male colleagues that also make fighting against this behavior a choice between agency and leaving the industry.