Buttadeus@thewanderingjew.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:11:19.296Z#
And I get a layer of "maybe none of the taboos are real, let's start at zero and see where it goes" but you can't have billions of dollars until you know where it goes.
Kathryn BrightBOO! 👻 ✒️@kebrightbill.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:14:59.597Z#
That's a huge problem with people coming from homeschool culture, where everything is taboo and forbidden, and nobody learns the difference between things that are actually taboo for a reason, and things that are taboo because evangelicals are obsessed with control and think everything is dangerous.
Helena Claire@helenaclaire.bsky.social·2026-09-27T23:51:43.546Z#
There's also the dynamic of "I'm going to Hell anyway at this point so 🤷♂️ " that others learn how to manipulate to get a woman to go waaaay beyond her comfort zone.
Buttadeus@thewanderingjew.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:15:29.993Z#
yeah. And like, it is OK to go to sex clubs and have orgies and break out of monogamy or whatever else!
It's just not ALSO your job.
scaryr🦊@merveille.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:17:48.595Z#
It's definitely not your job to try to recruit anyone who seems even mildly hesitant about any part of it, but that's another place the evangelical cultural machine hurts us all.
scaryr🦊@merveille.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:31:21.036Z#
I should note that in all the Bluesky stuff I have seen so far, I haven't seen mention of Aella doing any pressuring. I feel like my response here implies that and given what I have seen, that is not fair of me.
Sava Blue@unicorntickles.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:35:45.964Z#
sorry but if you’re an organizer of these things and you are frequently and loudly ensuring a culture of true consent (especially in the cnc world) you silence is suspect to say the very least. If it’s your event, and people are being assaulted you should take that fucking personally and seriously.
Buttadeus@thewanderingjew.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:33:08.057Z#
I don't think she does. Like, I think that's why it's somewhat ambiguous and challenging here. Like she throws big sex parties and invites her friends who are big in the industry, and then people get jobs and connections from there.
Kathryn BrightBOO! 👻 ✒️@kebrightbill.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:24:52.327Z#
Yep, and where she's from, evangelical culture includes greatest hits like a woman being pressured into marrying a known pedophile because Doug Wilson (the same Doug Wilson who's in Pete Hegseth's orbit) thought lots of married sex would keep the pedophile from being tempted by children.
Kathryn BrightBOO! 👻 ✒️@kebrightbill.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:26:50.531Z#
(she's not from Doug Wilson's church, but it's impossible to be a homeschooler in Moscow, ID and not have Wilsonites in your orbit shaping homeschool culture)
Simon@thedenature.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:33:22.289Z#
My brain initially processed "Doug Wilson" as "Doug Walker" and for a moment I thought the conversation had veered in a WILDLY unanticipated direction.
Kathryn BrightBOO! 👻 ✒️@kebrightbill.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:20:01.433Z#
And maintaining a boundary between work and orgies is kind of important, and not just something people say as a means of control!
scaryr🦊@merveille.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:23:15.552Z#
Yes! But also when you're younger and fresh out of college, how else do you meet people? (I mean work, not orgies.)
Buttadeus@thewanderingjew.bsky.social·2026-09-27T18:24:21.311Z#
Yeah. Easier said than done! Like in both directions kinda