As an autistic woman* it's really interesting when men fall back on "I can't help it, I'm autistic" as an excuse for SA and consent violations because as an autistic person all I've ever done is make myself smaller for a world that won't accommodate my disabilities.
Among other incidents there was a man who would send me fetish content and no matter how I told him I do not consent to it, he continued. When I blocked him I was approached in a cafe by another woman about being ableist for doing this as "he can't help it" and I was "deliberately isolating him"
It may shock some people, but being a cunt isn't a disability.
oh gods this.
Autistic people who give a shit about other people's feelings are horrified when we do something like that, and immediately step back and try and patch our software.
Anything else doesn't necessarily mean you're not autistic, it means that you are autistic and also an asshole
I've always been more like "I'm 99% sure they're into me but there's a 1% chance I'm wrong so better say nothing rather than make them uncomfortable"
And regardless of your struggles, you can grow 😑 you can learn or change if you care
Morrigan Croft@morrigancroft.bsky.social·2026-09-29T14:49:21.763Z#
