⏱📋David Steinberg⏱📋@zzyzx.bsky.social·2026-09-29T15:33:51.690Z
Re: I think there are elements that can be taught. Is she "yes anding" playing along or is she trying to change the subject? Does she have an easy escape route or are you pressuring her to join the conversation? More specifically I'd say things like...

⏱📋David Steinberg⏱📋@zzyzx.bsky.social·2026-09-29T15:33:51.691Z#
There are men who can go from zero to explicit talk and it will work for them. By you being in this class, you're not one of them. Light and breezy is where you should start. The minimum viable product (hey they're techies!) isn't sex or 2nd base: it's an enjoyable conversation for both.
⏱📋David Steinberg⏱📋@zzyzx.bsky.social·2026-09-29T15:33:51.692Z#
You can do everything "right" and she still might not want to go out with you. Accept that going in and enjoy the banter for its own sake, not as a stepping stone to something else. In the long run, getting better at communicating and understanding boundaries helps, but it's a process.