Buttadeus@thewanderingjew.bsky.social路2026-09-27T18:15:29.993Z
yeah. And like, it is OK to go to sex clubs and have orgies and break out of monogamy or whatever else! It's just not ALSO your job.

scaryr馃@merveille.bsky.social路2026-09-27T18:17:48.595Z#
It's definitely not your job to try to recruit anyone who seems even mildly hesitant about any part of it, but that's another place the evangelical cultural machine hurts us all.
scaryr馃@merveille.bsky.social路2026-09-27T18:31:21.036Z#
I should note that in all the Bluesky stuff I have seen so far, I haven't seen mention of Aella doing any pressuring. I feel like my response here implies that and given what I have seen, that is not fair of me.
Sava Blue@unicorntickles.bsky.social路2026-09-27T18:35:45.964Z#
sorry but if you鈥檙e an organizer of these things and you are frequently and loudly ensuring a culture of true consent (especially in the cnc world) you silence is suspect to say the very least. If it鈥檚 your event, and people are being assaulted you should take that fucking personally and seriously.
Sava Blue@unicorntickles.bsky.social路2026-09-27T18:38:36.645Z#
And honestly, none of this belongs in any kind of professional culture whatsoever. Sorry to be a prude but work and play are two different things and historically do not mix well.
scaryr馃@merveille.bsky.social路2026-09-27T18:45:10.010Z#
I don't think that's being a prude at all.
Buttadeus@thewanderingjew.bsky.social路2026-09-27T18:40:57.618Z#
Yeah - I think that's true but in small industries/subcultures it starts to become kind of impossible, which adds more responsibility all around.
Sava Blue@unicorntickles.bsky.social路2026-09-27T18:48:00.458Z#
fair and most of my friends work in the same industry as me and started or are still colleagues. but having strict boundaries have always been good practice for work vs everything else. and that takes mutual understanding and acknowledgment.
Buttadeus@thewanderingjew.bsky.social路2026-09-27T18:33:08.057Z#
I don't think she does. Like, I think that's why it's somewhat ambiguous and challenging here. Like she throws big sex parties and invites her friends who are big in the industry, and then people get jobs and connections from there.
Kathryn BrightBOO! 馃懟 鉁掞笍@kebrightbill.bsky.social路2026-09-27T19:02:07.943Z#
I think it crosses a line because she's got a history of tweets that blur the line between participating in her parties and employment in AI
Buttadeus@thewanderingjew.bsky.social路2026-09-27T19:02:54.488Z#
Does she have a job?
Kathryn BrightBOO! 馃懟 鉁掞笍@kebrightbill.bsky.social路2026-09-27T19:07:03.776Z#
This whole thing is her job.
Kathryn BrightBOO! 馃懟 鉁掞笍@kebrightbill.bsky.social路2026-09-27T18:24:52.327Z#
Yep, and where she's from, evangelical culture includes greatest hits like a woman being pressured into marrying a known pedophile because Doug Wilson (the same Doug Wilson who's in Pete Hegseth's orbit) thought lots of married sex would keep the pedophile from being tempted by children.
Kathryn BrightBOO! 馃懟 鉁掞笍@kebrightbill.bsky.social路2026-09-27T18:26:50.531Z#
(she's not from Doug Wilson's church, but it's impossible to be a homeschooler in Moscow, ID and not have Wilsonites in your orbit shaping homeschool culture)
Noah Deuce@noahdeuce.bsky.social路2026-09-27T18:45:28.820Z#
I went to college with a Doug Wilson who is not the bad Doug Wilson, but every time I read the bad Doug Wilson鈥檚 name I have a jump scare.
scaryr馃@merveille.bsky.social路2026-09-27T18:46:38.365Z#
I thought he was one of the Beach Boys?
Simon@thedenature.bsky.social路2026-09-27T18:33:22.289Z#
My brain initially processed "Doug Wilson" as "Doug Walker" and for a moment I thought the conversation had veered in a WILDLY unanticipated direction.
Kathryn BrightBOO! 馃懟 鉁掞笍@kebrightbill.bsky.social路2026-09-27T18:20:01.433Z#
And maintaining a boundary between work and orgies is kind of important, and not just something people say as a means of control!
scaryr馃@merveille.bsky.social路2026-09-27T18:23:15.552Z#
Yes! But also when you're younger and fresh out of college, how else do you meet people? (I mean work, not orgies.)
Buttadeus@thewanderingjew.bsky.social路2026-09-27T18:24:21.311Z#
Yeah. Easier said than done! Like in both directions kinda